Who I am and How I work

My background includes over twenty years working with leaders and developing teams in high pressure corporate and startup environments, whilst also navigating the demands of family life and parenting two now-adult children. This shapes how I understand the pressures and patterns my clients bring.

I work relationally, which means I pay close attention to what’s happening between us in the room as much as to what you bring about your life outside it. Patterns show up in both places. Sometimes the most useful work happens when we notice what’s repeating, what gets avoided, or what pulls you in a particular direction without you quite realising it.

I adapt how I work depending on what’s needed. With some people, the work is more exploratory; with others, particularly when familiar loops keep repeating or thinking has become a dead end, I’m more active and direct. I don’t avoid challenge when it’s useful, but I don’t push for the sake of it. The pace and the approach depend on you and what’s actually needed.

What working with me looks like: fifty-minute sessions, in person or online, or if it suits you better, outdoors as a walk and talk. I’m not here to tell you what to do or prescribe a particular way forward. The work is about helping you see more clearly what’s going on, so you can make your own decisions with more honesty and less fog

Areas of particular focus

I work with people across several key areas: those tired of performing, masking, or living up to expectations; those in periods of transition, whether stepping up, stepping back, or quietly questioning what comes next; and those noticing strain in close relationships, with partners, family, or colleagues, where familiar patterns no longer feel sustainable. 

These experiences aren’t a sign of failure.

Working with Men

Many of the men I work with arrive sceptical, wondering whether talking can really help. For some, distress shows up less as sadness and more as anger, irritation, or a kind of shutdown. I don’t expect you to arrive already comfortable with emotional expression. I work at your pace, adapting to how you engage, and I’m willing to challenge what’s being said when familiar loops keep repeating or thinking has become a dead end.

Boarding School: the lasting impact of being sent away

Being sent to boarding school young shapes people in ways that often don’t become fully visible until much later in life. The patterns it creates: self-reliance as survival, difficulty with vulnerability, uncertainty about who you are beneath the coping. These same patterns tend to follow people into adult relationships and into how they relate to themselves. I have first-hand experience of this and won’t need it explained or minimize it because it looks like privilege from the outside.

Making sense of late ADHD diagnosis

Many people discover they have ADHD later in life, after years of wondering why certain things feel so much harder. I have first-hand experience of ADHD: the exhaustion of years spent compensating and masking, the particular self-doubt that builds up. The diagnosis may bring relief but can also open up grief and anger. The emotional journey isn’t straightforward, and I don’t rush people through this. The work is about giving it the time it needs and supporting the rebuilding of trust in yourself.

Other common issues include:

• Burnout, exhaustion, or the sense of always having to push through
• Imposter syndrome, self-doubt, or quietly questioning your own competence
• Transitions in work or life, including stepping into leadership, stepping back, or rethinking direction
• Success that hasn’t brought the satisfaction, meaning, or peace you expected
• Strain or distance in close relationships, repeating patterns that no longer feel workable
• Parenting a neurodiverse child and navigating the emotional and relational demands this can bring

Training and qualifications

I am a qualified Psychotherapist, holding a Diploma in Humanistic Psychotherapy and Counselling (4 year training with HOMA London). Prior to this I trained as an executive coach (AOEC in London) and have also consulted with numerous organisations on areas such as leadership, organisational culture, team development and other human centred issues.

I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), and adhere to the BACP’s Ethical Framework for good practice. My registration number is 01036865

Fees

My fee is £85 per 50-minute session. I also offer some concession places on a sliding scale for those on lower incomes; please contact me if you would like to discuss this.

Next Steps

The idea of first starting therapy can throw up all sorts of emotions and taking the first step can be daunting. It’s important you find someone with whom you feel really comfortable and with this in mind, I suggest an initial free 45-minute call. You can suss me out, ask questions, see how comfortable you feel and then decide if therapy with me feels right for you.

To set up a call, or to ask any questions that you have, you can text or WhatsApp me on 07802 881541 or email me at nick@nicholaspage.co.uk.