At the root of people-pleasing is often a lack of boundaries and a difficulty with knowing where you end, and someone else begins. Having boundaries means recognising that you have needs and limits, and that being kind to everyone else sometimes has a cost to you. Without this, there’s no end to what you give, meaning you carry the emotional mood of your relationships, feel responsible when someone else is upset, and believe your own needs matter less than theirs.

A big part of people-pleasing therapy is reconnecting with yourself and who you are underneath everything you do for others, strengthening your boundaries, and building the language and confidence to say no, communicate what you need, and hold your ground in the relationships where it’s hardest to do so – often with family and the people closest to you. 

Our work may include:

• Understanding where your people-pleasing comes from, and why it’s a pattern that can change
• Reconnecting with your own needs and feelings
• Building boundaries that protect your time, energy and capacity
• Managing the guilt and anxious overthinking that comes with prioritising yourself
• Finding healthy emotional separation from other people’s feelings
• Communicating what you need and holding your ground in difficult relationships

Change often shows up as things like: making plans for yourself without needing to explain or apologise for them, trusting your own judgement instead of seeking reassurance, and no longer being the first to put your hand up for things nobody else wants to do. It’s less about becoming a different person, and more about having space to be the person you already are, underneath who you are for others.

My Approach 

I’m an integrative therapist, which means I don’t work to a single fixed model – I draw on psychodynamic, transactional analysis, trauma-informed and attachment-based approaches, adapted to who you are and what you want from our work together. 

I have almost a decade of experience supporting clients to overcome people-pleasing, manage social and generalised anxiety, build self-esteem, strengthen their boundaries and manage the discomfort that comes with stepping forward to advocate for yourself, so you can create what you actually want from you life. You can explore my work in these areas in more detail through my website or instagram.

You can expect sessions with me to be intentional, collaborative and gentle, but I will also challenge you, share direct feedback, and introduce tools and resources when they feel helpful.

I believe that a therapist who shows up as a real person creates a safer, more meaningful space. I like to bring my own experiences and personality to the work I do, as much as my clinical knowledge. You can trust that I won’t just sit there and nod during our sessions.

My Credentials

• Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling from the Northern Guild of Psychotherapy
• Additional 2 years of Integrative Psychotherapy study at postgraduate level, with the Northern Guild of Psychotherapy
• Professionally Accredited Member of National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (registration number: NCS21-01979). 

I’m fully insured, attend regular supervision and engage in ongoing learning to support my work. 

The practicalities 

I offer individual psychotherapy to adults both in-person and online. 

In-person sessions take place on Wednesdays from Homa Therapy Practice in King’s Cross. 

Online sessions are held Tuesday – Thursday on Zoom and offer effective therapy from the convenience and safety of your own space.

We can also meet in a hybrid way, where we mix between meeting online and in-person. 

Early morning appointments are available. 

Fees & frequency 

Therapy is typically held weekly or bi-weekly, depending on clinical need and capacity, for as long as it continues to be helpful. This involves reviewing often, revisiting your reasons for coming and checking in about the progress we both feel we’re making.

The fee is £95 – £125 per 50-minute session, and you select what works for you within this bracket.

Next steps

If you’re considering getting in touch, I offer a complimentary exploration call that gives us an opportunity to have a brief initial conversation and establish whether we feel we’ll work well together.

If we decide to progress, we’ll arrange a consultation session before moving into meeting regularly. You can reach out via email or my website to get started.